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Tips for involving your partner at the birth

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When it comes to involving your partner in the birth, it’s worth having a good chat to find out if there’s anything he’s worried about. Many dads-to-be think they’ll be in the way, so reassure him that when it comes to the birth you’ll be working as a team. Attending antenatal classes together is another good way to help him realise how important his role is. If you need some more tips to help you involve your partner, just contact us.

Lisa, baby care advisor and mum

Reassure him before the birth


Because mums are usually the focus of attention before the baby is born, dads can feel a bit lost. Involving your partner also means thinking about things like saying "We're pregnant" even if you think it sounds silly! It just reminds people that pregnancy is about both mum and dad.

It's good to talk


Talking things through can help ease any worries. Does he feel he'll have a role during your labour? Maybe he thinks he'll be useless without medical training and doesn't want to get in the way? Try and reassure him there'll be lots to keep him occupied! Does he have a friend who's experienced childbirth? A chat over a pint might help put his mind at ease.

How can dads get involved during the birth?


It’s not just about making dad feel useful and involved; your partner can be really handy when it comes to labour.

  • Put him in charge of your birth plan – he can stick up for you if he feels you're not getting what you want and be a useful pair of ears if medical staff bamboozle you with information.
  • Massage techniques, which he’ll learn at antenatal class, can provide you with some welcome relief from pain. Touch can do wonders; even if it’s just a reassuring cuddle or a back-rub to let you know he’s there.
  • Ask your partner to be on hand to help you get comfy – whether that means rearranging your position when you’re lacking energy or just making sure your pillows are plumped. And a cooling flannel can feel lovely if you’re getting too hot.
  • Words of encouragement can do the power of good when you’re tired, exhausted and reaching the end of your tether. Your partner can keep your spirits up and tell you what a good job you’re doing.

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