I'm just a bump, I want me back!

I just want someone to pay attention to me!

When you get pregnant, it’s normal for everyone and everything to focus on your bump, which is lovely most of the time. But in later stages of pregnancy, you may find yourself feeling a bit invisible and longing to be appreciated as an individual. 

As your bump gets bigger, getting a good night's sleep can be a nightmare! And being tired just makes you feel even more grouchy and sorry for yourself. So give yourself a break, indulge in some me-time and ask friends and loved ones to help out around the house, while you put your feet up!

Take care of yourself

If you do feel a bit overlooked, mention it to your partner and close friends and family, to help them understand how you’re feeling. Then try and take some time out to treat yourself to things that make you feel good, for instance:

• • Go to the cinema (but sit close to the aisle in case you need a quick loo break!).
• • Get your partner to cook your favourite meal at home and enjoy a romantic candle-lit dinner together.
• • Exercising gently releases feel-good   chemicals in your body and will actually help you feel good and sleep better at night too (as long as you stop a good four hours before bedtime). Regular exercise can also build up your stamina, helping you get through labour.  
• There’s nothing like a pampering session! Whether it’s going for a manicure, pedicure, a new haircut, or a relaxing massage with pregnancy-safe oils such as lavender, just take some time out and treat yourself.

Learn to love your pregnancy

Try to remember the positive side of your bump. It’s not every day that men offer you their seat, women smile admiringly and you get to put your feet up and eat ice-cream/marmalade/marmite (delete as applicable!) until it’s coming out of your ears. Remember how excited and happy you were earlier on in the pregnancy. And think about how amazing it’ll be to hold your baby in your arms for the first time.

Chatting things over with other mums-to-be who know exactly how you’re feeling can be great therapy. If you don’t know anyone who’s going through pregnancy, places like our online forums are ideal.